Forget surface-level dating tips.
This guide exposes the 5 destructive mistakes that 93% of men unknowingly make, killing attraction during crucial moments – whether on dating apps, via text, or on actual dates.
In today’s ruthless and unfair dating market, where men often get the short end of the stick, mastering attraction, connection, and masculinity isn’t just a choice—it’s a necessity. Without these, you’ll be tossed aside, no matter how good of a man you are at heart.
Meanwhile, guys who know how to project masculine charisma get the attention. A healthy, secure woman seeks these qualities in a partner. If you’re not stepping up, you’ll be invisible while others get the women you want!
And you’ll continue repeating 5 avoidable errors that lead to:
This guide is your roadmap to break free from this pattern and become the man women naturally gravitate towards.
ABNLP Men’s Life Coach and Speaker, London-based expert with 10 years in the field.
I help single men, especially nice guys date successfully after painful rejections or tough breakups.
As a former tech nerd who struggled with women, my post-divorce journey led me to date attractive, loving women I once thought were out of my league.
This transformation helped me identify the ‘5 Masculine Fractures’ that sabotage men’s chances with women.
The Mistake: Prolonged nervousness creates an uncomfortable atmosphere, manifesting in tense body language, changed speech patterns, and over-analyzing in text conversations.
The Impact: You appear cold, awkward, or overly talkative, killing both attraction and connection.
The Root Cause: The Nerve-Fracture leads to hyper-vigilance and overthinking, stemming from a deep-seated fear of danger or threat.
The Fix: Master the art of calm. Practice deep, diaphragmatic breathing (Box Breathing). Stay present in the moment rather than getting lost in anxious thoughts.
The Mistake: Placing attractive women on an unreachable pedestal, seeing them as flawless and “better” than you.
The Impact: You oscillate between unworthiness and overcompensation, creating an imbalanced dynamic.
The Root Cause: The Ego-Fracture stems from deep-seated feelings of unworthiness and fear of failure.
The Fix: Embrace an integrated view. See her as a human with both qualities and flaws, and see yourself as the same. Move beyond the black and white thinking.
The Mistake: Attaching too quickly and intensely during early interactions, imagining a future together prematurely.
The Impact: You become approval-seeking and clingy, causing her to pull away.
The Root Cause: The Emotional-Fracture makes relationships the center of your universe, often stemming from unresolved past hurts and an insecure attachment style.
The Fix: Slow down and enjoy the present moment. If she likes you, she’s not going away unless you do turn her off.
The Mistake: Progressing the interaction too rapidly, especially towards sexual topics, misreading signals or letting desire override social awareness.
The Impact: You’re labeled as desperate or grouped with “average desperate men” (ADM), leading to instant rejection or loss of respect.
The Root Cause: The Sexual-Fracture breeds feelings of undesirability and lack of self-control. This often comes from sexual shaming, hiding, and not wanting to come across as a creep or a sexual predator.
The Fix: Master the art of calibration. Learn to read her cues and pace the interaction accordingly. Practice the “two steps forward, one step back” approach in escalation.
The Mistake: Lacking a magnetic aura that comes from genuine life passions is more than just being “boring.” It’s about failing to demonstrate depth, curiosity, and engagement with the world around you.
The Impact: Conversations fall flat, failing to trigger emotional investment. You become forgettable in her eyes.
The Root Cause: The Spiritual-Fracture creates a sense of being unimportant, often resulting from losing touch with one’s purpose and being aimless.
The Fix: Rediscover and cultivate your passions. Speak about them with infectious enthusiasm. Show genuine curiosity about her interests and the world around you.
These fractures don’t only destroy conversation attraction; they are the preparators behind many dating, intimacy and masculinity.
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